02 6 / 2012
Totally agree, this is my favorite metaphor, too. “Gender is a universe and we’re all stars” has a good ring to it, plus it has the perfect amount of sparkly fabulousness to the image it conjures, LOL. I’ve often said that gender is like an archipelago. It doesn’t completely describe the many-pointedness/multiple independent centers of gender identity, but it’s a land form that most people know about so I use it as an analogy.
gqid:
(via transissues101:
Unlike the color wheel which was inconclusive, as stated by aerynotn, this depicts gender with infinite possibilities, with all possibilities being independent from each other.
Depicting gender as independent points rather than as a continuum or even a color wheel or spectrum is something much-needed I think I have not seen before - would definitely like to explore this concept further.
~Marilyn
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01 6 / 2012
Maxine Holloway: PLEASE REPOST: New Kink.com policy disrespects models
This past month a severe pay cut was given to the women who work at KinkLive.com. They needed to save money and they did it by taking it from the models. Instead of staying quiet and taking what they were willing to give us for our work - we united, stood up for ourselves and are taking…
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01 6 / 2012
.*.*.*.*.*.Rambamblings.*.*.*.*.*.: SYSTEMS OF OPPRESSION IS NOT THE SAME AS SOMEONE BEING MEAN TO YOU.
Acknowledge your fucking privilege.
As a white/cis/abled/neurotypical/hetero/upperclassed/etc. person you have no right to say you have been the victim of reverse-anything!
People are mean to you.
THAT’S IT.
Racism/ablelism/cissexism/etc. exist because there is a clear power majority that has…
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31 5 / 2012
Quote of the year
“It’s weird how the definition of ‘ally’ has gone from ‘people outside our group who genuinely support us in our quest for equality’ to ‘people who will withdraw their support if they and their feelings aren’t centered in the discussion’.”
-electricsouls
(via whencylonsdream)
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31 5 / 2012
If you’re more offended by “die cis scum” than by people dying and being constantly abused, harassed, and threatened for simply existing, then you are no ally. Learn that cis does not automatically equal “cis scum.”
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31 5 / 2012
if i was famous i’d just tour around the country without telling anyone and go to random college campuses late at night, and i’d wait until i saw one person walking by themselves and i’d walk behind them and put my hands over their eyes and say guess who and when they turned around it’d be me and they’d be like omg and then i’d say “no one will ever believe you” and i’d just sprint off into the moonlight
oh god
considering i never know who famous people are i’d just tell people some strange guy snuck up behind me in the dark while i was alone and touched/grabbed me…. and then acted like i should know them and ran off. i’m pretty sure my friends would believe that’s possible and would just share my relief that i wasn’t murdered for being trans or raped for being a woman or mugged for being alone at night.
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30 5 / 2012
nikkolles-better-sense asked: towards me. every time it has been used towards me it has been made to make me feel belittled by trans people. thats just my personal experience, that why i dont like it. and its not cis privilege or anything, you cant change my experiences. nor do you have a say on issues that i feel a part of or how i get to comment on them. i understand it a little bit differently now.
i can’t speak to your experience. i can accept that you’ve only seen cis used in the context of the negative things cis people do. and that in that context cis comes across as a bad thing to be.
however, not having to worry about all of the ways in which your gender can be delegitimized is cis privilege. being largely in the dark about trans issues means you’re probably going to discover a lot of things that trans* people have to deal with that you as a cis person don’t.
you said yourself that you’re not trans… so i can tell you when you’re not being a very good ally to my community.
29 5 / 2012
Better Sense Says:: you know another lable that i cant stand?
CIS.
dont call me cis. i’m not your little word for me. i am simply not a trans person. thats it, i’m not trans. i’m not anything else beyond not being trans. i’m not cis.
i admit that i was very in the dark about this community, but not out of hate or ignorance, or unwillingness to participate,…
lurk moar
i’m going to take you at your word that you are coming from a place of ignorance on trans* topics and not a place of malice or transphobia. as others have said, “cis” = “not trans” in the context of gender. so your proclamation of not being anything other than not trans doesn’t really make sense as an objection to a term that means precisely that. you also mentioned that you feel that cis is a devisive term. however it’s the exact opposite. it provides an equal way for describing trans and non trans people. for example “There are cis women and trans women.” which places both cis women and trans women as equals. whereas saying “There are women and trans women” implies that trans women are separate from women. it creates a normal and not normal dynamic.
basically take the time to really think about why you feel it’s ok to have a label for trans people but not for cis people. is it because cis is normal and being trans is less than normal? please check your cis privilege and cissupremicy assumptions. and maybe take the time to educate yourself more on communities before you decide to share your opinions of them or how they discuss their issues.
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